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Here are four important lessons you can use to see if you and your partner are on the same wavelength

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I had just gotten back from a hike with my wife in Maine. It was an arduous six-hour hike up a mountain where we encountered many twists and turns along the way. It was not easy, and there was a lot of planning involved beforehand; however, knowing my wife for so many years, we knew the quirks with one another that we made the hike work.

Thinking back, I believe our hike is an excellent metaphor for how we make our relationship succeed. …

Don’t be caught with a shoddy foundation

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Having been brought up in a reasonably competitive childhood, all I remember when I was younger were these three lessons:

  1. Get good grades
  2. Respect your family
  3. Don’t get in trouble

As long as I achieved these goals, I was left alone and could do anything I wanted.

Since the goals were ingrained in my mind, this was also what I believed were most important in my life. Nothing else mattered unless those three goals were met.

However, as I grew older, responsibilities increased, and life got inherently more complicated. …

When you engage, you make people shine

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A couple of weeks back, I was waiting in the lobby for my doctor’s appointment to begin. I had arrived 30 minutes earlier (a first!) and was sitting patiently next to the elevators.

As I looked at the clock to see how much time I had left to go, I noticed something interesting.

Across from me was a gentleman who worked as a receptionist. He was sitting in a chair with monitors around him, and looking at people coming in and out of the waiting area.

Every person he interacted with, he asked these three simple questions. And without fail…

How to accept that it is OK to push back

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Imagine this: You have been working non-stop for five days straight at your job, juggling multiple projects at the same time, and completely swarmed with meetings.

Your boss comes in and says, “Hey, can you take on this next project? It needs to be completed by next week.”

Instinctively, you want to push back on the matter, but you are afraid that it might not look good on you and your career. You then sheepishly accept the extra project and continue on your way.

Does that sound familiar?

It turns out, there has been research done on this type of…

What I learned and why I appreciate the people working there

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When the pandemic first hit and stores started to shut down, I didn’t initially think much about Starbucks. I had been going there religiously a couple of times per week for the past couple of years in Boston, but I didn’t know the gravity of having no contact would affect my psyche.

Two weeks in, new policies started to pop up around my Starbucks App, which limited the number of people going into the store. To make it even more confusing, the curbside pickup was the only way to order.

Being an introvert, this made me nervous paying via an…

We can get lost at times, but remember these points to get back on track

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For the past month, I have been swarmed in my full-time work with projects and outside responsibilities. But, most importantly, I haven’t had the chance to write much on Medium since I felt like it was overtime work and my ideas had been drained over the past couple of months.

However, as luck would have it, I stumbled upon this song from The Strike called “Overtime” which I highly recommend for you to listen to if you like 80’s feeling songs!. This song spoke to me since the content deals with working overtime for a loved one.

In this case…

Learn how to embrace it to analyze your true thoughts

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Our human brain is a fickle organ.

Hundreds, if not thousands, of thoughts, whizz through our minds every day. Internal and external factors shape our opinions and actions, which determine how we ultimately act.

For example, you are at a meeting: A co-worker asks you an open-ended question about a project and your opinion about it. These might be a couple of thoughts that immediately run through your mind:

  • Who is this person I am talking to?
  • How will this project affect my standing with the company?
  • Will anyone hear my opinion and think negatively of me?

These external factors…

Use these tips to successfully spot and exit an unhealthy friendship

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I recently stopped seeing a close friend of mine I had known for 15 years.

Before that, I attended his birthday parties, met his family, ate countless dinners and lunches with him, and even attended his wedding.

However, as the years went on, our friendship started to deteriorate until it was in a state that was unhealthy. Every time we met, I was always on the defensive and on my toes, trying to prepare for what he would do to me next.

Since we had known each other since middle school, I didn’t want our friendship to end because of…

You can get inspirations throughout your life

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In an ironic twist, I tend to write more when there are more problems with my life. I have an ongoing game I play with myself to see how many articles I can write per week. When I have fewer articles to write, that usually means my life isn’t filled with problems.

However, when turbulence abounds, I tend to have topics I love to write about from the outside world.

Since I have written quite a few this past month, that must mean I have a chaotic life!

Does this happen to you as well?

Here are a couple of…

A tough talk that maybe you shouldn't put writing front-and-center

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It’s getting late, and you are trying to get your article finished. You started the article in the morning with a structure, fleshed out the points in the afternoon, and then finished writing the article at night.

However, during this time, you have constantly been avoiding a specific problem. Whether it be a project at work, finishing your studies, or taking care of your child’s homework, there is this nagging feeling you are trying to bury an issue.

Does this sound familiar?

It turns out you might be using writing as a way to avoid your problems lurking in the…

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