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Don’t be caught with a shoddy foundation

Pillar supporting foundation
Pillar supporting foundation

Having been brought up in a reasonably competitive childhood, all I remember when I was younger were these three lessons:

  1. Get good grades
  2. Respect your family
  3. Don’t get in trouble

As long as I achieved these goals, I was left alone and could do anything I wanted.

Since the goals were ingrained in my mind, this was also what I believed were most important in my life. Nothing else mattered unless those three goals were met.

However, as I grew older, responsibilities increased, and life got inherently more complicated. …

When you engage, you make people shine

Two face smiling statue
Two face smiling statue

A couple of weeks back, I was waiting in the lobby for my doctor’s appointment to begin. I had arrived 30 minutes earlier (a first!) and was sitting patiently next to the elevators.

As I looked at the clock to see how much time I had left to go, I noticed something interesting.

Across from me was a gentleman who worked as a receptionist. He was sitting in a chair with monitors around him, and looking at people coming in and out of the waiting area.

Every person he interacted with, he asked these three simple questions. And without fail…

How to accept that it is OK to push back

Woman putting hand in front of man
Woman putting hand in front of man

Imagine this: You have been working non-stop for five days straight at your job, juggling multiple projects at the same time, and completely swarmed with meetings.

Your boss comes in and says, “Hey, can you take on this next project? It needs to be completed by next week.”

Instinctively, you want to push back on the matter, but you are afraid that it might not look good on you and your career. You then sheepishly accept the extra project and continue on your way.

Does that sound familiar?

It turns out, there has been research done on this type of…

What I learned and why I appreciate the people working there

Starbucks baristas hard at work
Starbucks baristas hard at work

When the pandemic first hit and stores started to shut down, I didn’t initially think much about Starbucks. I had been going there religiously a couple of times per week for the past couple of years in Boston, but I didn’t know the gravity of having no contact would affect my psyche.

Two weeks in, new policies started to pop up around my Starbucks App, which limited the number of people going into the store. To make it even more confusing, the curbside pickup was the only way to order.

Being an introvert, this made me nervous paying via an…

Use these tips to successfully spot and exit an unhealthy friendship

Two friends in a sunset talking
Two friends in a sunset talking

I recently stopped seeing a close friend of mine I had known for 15 years.

Before that, I attended his birthday parties, met his family, ate countless dinners and lunches with him, and even attended his wedding.

However, as the years went on, our friendship started to deteriorate until it was in a state that was unhealthy. Every time we met, I was always on the defensive and on my toes, trying to prepare for what he would do to me next.

Since we had known each other since middle school, I didn’t want our friendship to end because of…

You can get inspirations throughout your life

In an ironic twist, I tend to write more when there are more problems with my life. I have an ongoing game I play with myself to see how many articles I can write per week. When I have fewer articles to write, that usually means my life isn’t filled with problems.

However, when turbulence abounds, I tend to have topics I love to write about from the outside world.

Since I have written quite a few this past month, that must mean I have a chaotic life!

Does this happen to you as well?

Here are a couple of…

A tough talk that maybe you shouldn't put writing front-and-center

Man in deep thought
Man in deep thought

It’s getting late, and you are trying to get your article finished. You started the article in the morning with a structure, fleshed out the points in the afternoon, and then finished writing the article at night.

However, during this time, you have constantly been avoiding a specific problem. Whether it be a project at work, finishing your studies, or taking care of your child’s homework, there is this nagging feeling you are trying to bury an issue.

Does this sound familiar?

It turns out you might be using writing as a way to avoid your problems lurking in the…

Why it didn’t make me any happier and here are 3 steps to fix those negative thoughts

Piggy bank looking at coins
Piggy bank looking at coins

When I first graduated from college and landed my first full-time job, the first meeting my HR scheduled on my calendar was orientation. I still remember vividly in that meeting, she drove home the point to the employees:

  1. Save your money.
  2. Put your money into 401(k).
  3. Don’t spend more than you can afford.

Fast forward 15 years later, I still have that mantra burned into my brain. I would funnel a percentage I could stomach into my retirement fund for every paycheck that I got.

It was not until a couple of months ago, I had an experiment I wanted…

A great live-action remake of the ’60s animated film

In celebration of Cruella that just came out of Disney+, I reviewed one of the live-action movies from Disney: 101 Dalmations played by the great Glenn Close.

I put the movie on and watched it in anticipation of the 2021 version that just came out.

Here is a breakdown and review of the ’90s film.

Brief synopsis

The movie starts in London, where a struggling game designer Roger Dearly lives with his dalmatian Pongo. One day, while his owner is walking Pongo, he sees a female dalmatian named Perdy, and he is instantly attracted to her and runs off to see her.

Here are 3 reasons why

Man with his back against us
Man with his back against us

I had got off of a Zoom call with a good friend of mine. We were catching up about our daily lives when the topic of productivity came about.

To be brutally honest, I told my friend that I had recently tried to be more pro-active in my decision-making. I noticed that I would tend to shun away from the situation when there were challenging problems to solve. When that happens, I start to think about the issue even more, and it gets compounded.

And on and on, the cycle continues.

Surprisingly, my friend gave me a nugget of wisdom…

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